Homophobic or just badly written? Or homophobic AND badly written with bad hair?

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OK, you obviously don’t expect too much from Stylist, the freebie magazine/catalogue handed out on the mean streets of glittering London of a Tuesday: some round-table interviews, some pictures of the pair of cheap shoes women are hyperventilating over this week, something about Sex and the City, something about how you should vote David Cameron because he has nice hair, something about an anti-wrinkle cream… you know, heady stuff.

But what is this from poodle-haired journalist Dawn Porter? We can’t work out if it’s just stupid or homophobically stupid… which kind of points to bad writing, doesn’t it? Anyways, it goes something like this…

‘Last week I bought my friend a birthday card – I love inappropriate cards but I buckled and threw this one away. All it said was ‘You are so GAY’ (she is). Is that funny, or is it too much? I couldn’t work it out. I thought it was funny and I think she would’ve too. But it’s hard to tell isn’t it?’

Yeah, really hard to tell whether perpetuating the idea of ‘gay’ as a form of insult is funny or not. And would you send an Asian friend a card saying, ‘You are such a Paki’?

*goes to work on a card that reads You Are Such a Cunt. Can’t work out whether it’s funny or not. Decides it is*

If you would like to remonstrate with Dawn over this piece, she can be contacted at dawn.porter@stylist.co.uk. Her editor can be contacted at editor@stylist.co.uk.

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28 comments to “Homophobic or just badly written? Or homophobic AND badly written with bad hair?”

  1. It is all of the above. Badly written with a dangerous tone of homophobia.
    That she actually asks the question, ‘Is it too much?’
    Try asking the poor gay/perceived-as-gay kids who get bullied on a daily basis, what they think about the promotion of ‘gay’ as a bad thing.
    Dawn Porter – you are a bad thing.

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  2. Apart from the fact Stylist is a rotten, pointless rag – the magazine for ‘intelligent women’? It’s for stupid women who think they’re intelligent but are too stupid to realise they’re dumb asses.
    And this column of Dawn Potty Mouth… well, what a load of offensive shite.

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  3. They are the thoughtless ramblings of an idiot. Unfortunately, the thoughtless ramblings of an idiot which get published and inform the brains of even more thoughtless idiots.
    Thanks for this, Stylist.

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  4. It’s an opinion piece with no opinion and no conclusion. What’s the point of that? She should have had the courage to come out and say, ‘This card incites hatred.’ I would have admired her for that. Instead, I just think she’s lame.

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  5. Here here (or is it ‘hear hear’, I always forget?!) Uma… Stylist horrifically reinforces stereotypes of women as pig-shit thick who do nought but Rampant Rabbit themselves off to Sex and the City. This silly bint Porter adds insult to the injury that is this on-the-rag rag. *licks end of quill, writes complaint*

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  6. Her hair is her punishment.

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  7. Did nobody see that episode of South Park?

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_F_Word_(South_Park)

    Meanings of words change and some words have two meanings. I am a gay and I am also of the dislking Chris Moyles for being a homphobe and ‘BB Aled’ for being a self hating gay apologist for the same.

    Howsoever, I reprimand friends and familing for ‘being gay’ and it never ever means that being homosexual is a bad thing; it means being gay is annoying. They share the same word but there are two meanings.

    There isn’t another meaning for the word paki, it’s just a racist term. Gay is a sexuality and it has come to mean rubbish/lame etc but not because it also describes sexuality.

    Two separate things.

    This article is so gay.

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  8. Bet she just ‘loves shoes!’

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  9. Here you go. She appears to reply to her tweets.

    http://twitter.com/hotpatooties

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  10. Gosh, I must be very out of step on this. I actually don’t have a problem with this at all, especially if Dawn Porter’s maten would be okay with it. I figure homophobia can often be dictated by the spirit in which a message is conveyed – I can’t see much bad in this. Sometimes it helps to insert a bit of humour into life, no?
    Patrick

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  11. I’ve typed out about three replies to Sean and Katy Mean, but none of what I say will ever be as good as what Wanda Sykes had to say on the matter in a think before you speak advert.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sWS0GVOQPs0

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  12. Yes, that’s very good. Wanda really does have a point: you shouldn’t use “Gay” to mean “bad”, I agree. But I’m thinking we may use “Gay” to mean, er “gay”, may we not? As in, sending that card to a gay person. Isn’t that what Dawn Porter was writing about? Hmmm….

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  13. She name-checks the fact that ‘You’re so gay’ is a derogative thing, yet then says she doesn’t have a problem with it. Which suggests she doesn’t have a problem with homophobia. She is a bad person for this.

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  14. Well this is the most attention that useless magazine has ever had.

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  15. More than anything, it’s just a really shit, facile piece of writing by a woman who doesn’t know any better.
    And I reprimand Sean for adopting gay as a term of abuse. *tuts*

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  16. I don’t really understand Sean’s argument. It’s not like ‘gay’ to mean stupid or whatever is unconnected to the word ‘gay’ meaning homo. The reason people say ‘that’s so gay’ is because to be gay is to them the worst/stupidest/wrongest thing they can imagine. I hate that straight people think they can make fun of gay people and if gay people don’t like it they don’t have a sense of humour. Try sending a card saying ‘You’re so Paki’ to an Asian friend, see how they like it, even without there being a double meaning.

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  17. Sean,

    GTFO. You’re a total disgrace. I never thought I’d see the day when a gay person would use the word “gay” to refer to something negative like stupid little children do. Shame on you.

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  18. I do not understand the problem. Gay people are often referred to as dollies or whatever by this site. There has never been a problem with as we all know the way in which it’s meant. She may not be the smartest, but put your pitch forks and handbags down!

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  19. Missing the point entirely, Danni. This stupid woman is perpetuating the idea that gay is a bad thing. ‘Dolly’, you see, is not a race/social group/demographic. Though maybe it should be…!

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  20. Was she? Really?

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  21. Errrrrrrrr, yeah. She bought a card saying ‘You’re so gay’ (bad enough in the first place), then thought, ‘Hmmmn, is it bad?’ then decided, ‘Nah, it isn’t’.
    Newsflash. Yes, it is bad. It is her condoning the use of gay as a term of abuse. Sure, she probably is just stupid rather than malicious, but it is stupidity like this that fuels the bigots.

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  22. This website has referred to lesbians as dykes, women who aren’t waifs as ‘lumps’, ladies out shopping as ‘boots’, another older lady as an ‘old trout’, a normal sized actress of having the ‘hips of number 38 bus’; has done a feature on at least one man who ‘couldn’t possibly be straight’ because he has ‘gay hair’ ‘gay eyebrows’ ‘gay clothes’ etc etc and has referred to another woman as having a face like a trucker.

    I find all of these things hilariously funny and am mature enough to be know that it doesn’t mean you’re promoting a negative body image for women, nor are you reducing all gay men to stereotypical looks and I don’t think you’re implying that if you’re old you’re either a boot or a trout.

    So, if it’s wrong to use gay with ‘negative connotations’ surely it’s eqaully wrong for all of the above – as they could be argued to be reinforcing negative stereotypes of gay men, old women, normal size women and women who don’t conform to ‘the beautiful look’.

    Moral high horse, get off it.

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  23. Moral high horse?! HA!

    I get SO pissed when I hear people say “that’s so gay” blablabla. Because it reinforces the idea that being gay is a bad thing and is undesirable. It cannot be compared to, say, “lumps” or the other things you said – these are deliberate insults/jokes/whatever aimed at particular people. “Gay”, on the other hand, refers to an entire demographic of people, and saying “that’s so gay” (which generally tends to be used to describe something annoying or otherwise negative) is essentially homophobia.

    I am NOT on any high horse, m’love. I am just incredibly proud to be gay and am sick of people putting others like me down. I will NOT be considered inferior to straight people. “That’s so gay” my arse.

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  24. Exactly, Andrew. Well said.
    And just a minor point… I don’t think they’ve ever used the word ‘dyke’. The others, maybe… ;0)

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  25. ummm, wasn’t addressing that to Mr Wells but to Messers Me-Me-Me.tv; unless you write the articles on me-me-me.

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  26. There is a vast difference between using adjectives when dissecting certain people in the public eye or whatever, and offending whole races/demographics. The latter is being racist/homophobic, the former is being, well, highly entertaining in my book.
    (Sorry, by the way, if I’ve just repeated what Andrew said but using slightly different words. Sean has got my goat up. And not in a good way. Though I’m open to offers. Maybe.)

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  27. ps. Ummm, I don’t think anyone was thinking you were addressing direct to Mr Wells.
    Semantics. It’s all semantics.

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  28. Still I think this is a case of a poorly written piece rather than a jibe at at gay people. I wouldn’t be offended by it at all, sexuality is a very minor aspect of someone, not a definition.

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